They take extra care to be mindful of other people’s feelings. I knew that we clicked, but I never would have guessed that we had the same very rare personality type. I do have one huge regret and that is my relationship with my daughter. I really struggle with my step dad telling me that I need to be more excited about things and I need to have more enthusiasm, and I am just being myself and I could feel motivated about something and I am just not showing it. For that matter all I’m going to say is – yes. My Psychology instructor found this website for me and I’m so glad she did! It was great to hear your perspective, which you stated beautifully. I honestly thought being kinda of an extrovert outside and recharging alone at home was normal. Studied again in formal courses but also by myself to develop a new career as Teacher, Coah and Psychoterapist. I find I make him more patient, and he makes me more ambitious. According to Kaido, there will never be another Samurai like Oden ever again. I can’t help it and I can’t turn that off. I just want to let you know, you’re not alone. Wow! Is there a reason why I am both intuitive and observant? We refuse to compromise our principals EVER. Whenever I’ve mentioned this in the past people have judged me and said that I thought I was better than everyone else, but this was never the case. I believe now, thats it better to make small steps towards your goals and influences than to believe you can or “have to” change the world today. Being an extrovert type of introvert is also kind of confusing but yeah, it does makes sense to me. Sometimes I give up and say I’m weird, sometimes I think for hours and forget to eat. I find that as a male, we have a harder time as we are brought up to be tough, macho and strong. Know that there is so much joy in finding things to improve in order to ease future anxiety and help assure yourself you are on the right track (in a world where almost everyone’s off the track). I def thought I never fit in. Do you have a similar experience? (And as…, [BLOCKED BY STBV] I’m a What? RELATED: One Piece: 10 Rage Moments That Gave Us Goosebumps. Don’t get me wrong it’s very draining being so open to others emotions but I see it as a blessing more than a curse. I soar with a team. I’ve learned a lot about myself. . Sadly… Society is constantly being programmed, living within the elitists generated social experiment that is called america… Seeing society for purely what it is. Leaving me really low sometimes. Now I know I’m not alone and it feels good. Haha! people worth your trust and time, that is all you need. I am a hopeless optimist – and I find different personalities most interesting. Probably to the outside world I look dazed and confused. I took the test many years ago during college. My skin looks like I was shredded by freddy Krueger and the only parts i dont have stretch marks on is my lower arms hands and ankles / feet neck and face. What i feel and see, they can’t understand and would criticize it. Thanks for your comment, Volt! Maybe because I’m good at reflecting their own personality? those two characters would never have met in a bar, so where then to find it? Like many of you, I pretend to be something I’m not at school. It takes me a really long time to trust someone new. Join our community, and feel connected to other INFJs who get you. in school, high school, university I’ve always been a loner… I’m also a misanthropist.. I’d be willing to bet that a lot of us are the same there too. In high school, some days I would walk around at lunch and go from group to group talking to everybody and loved every second of it! Life is never boring, not to me. People come to me with everything since they trust that I will not tell anyone and it makes me feel great knowing that I can help. If it happens, it happens. It was an eye opener. Thanks for reading, sorry it was so rambling. Helping doesn’t really work for me, i have found people will figure it out when they’re ready, not before then and not just because I am there and ready to support them. As smart as he is, I just have never been able to make him understand. Thank you so much for your comment, Esther! At my core, I’m a very giving individual, and even though I won’t be in a financial situation to help out others on a financial level or with gifts or such things, I hope to be able to make them happy by providing them a shoulder to cry on, an ear to talk to and a friend to rely on. Oh and I date an ESFJ. I would say, I am almost always misunderstood because of this complex personality of mine. I have a wide variety of acquaintances but just a handful of real friends, all before or from college. First dates happened, second dates were rare. I live in Venezuela but I lives for almost one year in the US back in 1995. i like to see people´s behavior. I have always felt that people do not understand me, and I therefore have few people who are close to me and really know me. I’m glad that you haven’t mentioned how others or yourself feel/think that you are BiPolar either. This extreme sensitivity sometimes makes me see others as if they were hollow vases who are too busy hiding from the possibility of pain to see that the whole humankind is suffering. All the latest gaming news, game reviews and trailers. Doctor, dentist, psychologist and a practitioner is what I’m looking at, at the moment) some other problems I’ve had, have been, making friends with all GROUPS in school, making teachers happy aswell as friends, trying harder than others to not fight, changing my personality for each and every person I came into contact with, and finding part time jobs and having different personality a with each person in each job I had. That’s what I can think of right now. But thanks to these experiences (and some more) I did not listen. When I was younger I was more described as “peaceful”. Thought Catalog Books; Corny Jokes; Riddles; Creepy Catalog; Family. Cheers. I still want to do ballet and take Japanese. To be honest, I’m so close to my ENTP friend that it is somewhat enjoyable. I get extremely frustrated with the direction of society and the world. I wasn’t a push over though – if I saw a kid being picked on I would throw down in a fight if the aggressor pushed me too much. That’s the only way an INFJ can survive! There was and is nothing wrong with me. I didn’t. I would be happy to answer any questions you might have . If they are not genuine then its between them and god(karma), but as for me, my concious is clear. I see that it is a year old, so maybe I have nothing new to share, but I would like to do so anyway. Interesting insights, Kenneth. If I couldn’t relate to people on a deep inner level, I struggled to maintain the friendship. Since reading about this, a lot makes sense! I truly believe he saved me, he kept me from becoming lost. I’m an INFJ, and very relived to know what’s been pressing me most of my life. ? I know what my needs are and how strong I’m but others won’t understand. So Thank you. I’ve always had alone time. I’ve been able to make strong bonds with people (a select few of course) throughout my life because of this. When I tell people I’m an introvert (INFJ), I’ve been accused of lying. And I get frustrated at times with how not everyone feels this way. There is a great power in saying no, but know that sometimes something amazing can be gained by saying yes. Enjoyed reading other people’s comments and the article , <3 INFJ & of course INTJ's! I 73% N 40% F 30% J 3%. The bipolar thing is also something I had noticed but I am glad that I am not the only infj to feel that way. Part of a community of INFS – my peeps! Dang i believe you too…….i cant believe im not crazy. Usually it is satisfying to paddle on my stream of thoughts alone, but when it gets overflowed I have to share my thoughts with others. If you have any questions about us INFJs, feel free to ask! Sorry I didn’t see your reply until you reposted this article. I am not comfortable in big crowds of socialization. I thought I never fit-in with this world, like an outsider, or sometimes when I’m really depressed, I thought I was sort of “Anti-Christ” or the rare-type of evil genius destined in his gene to resent the world that rejects him and to antagonize the whole world. Suddenly, all of my past difficulties and characteristics began to make sense. Others don’t get me. I’ve done a lot of soul searching over the decades…and I mean a LOT. I feel proud of myself now and can direct myself easier. There’s so much disparity between who people perceive me to be and who I truly am that sometimes it’s easy to lose sight of who I am at my very core. But, ironically, I’m the one who they all come to see, for advice! I am so lucky that I am married to a man who loves me and accepts me for who I am, and knew I wasn’t “damaged” before I did. Otherwise I feel conflicted and sad at times because I wish I was making a difference. lol Thanks for letting me ramble. As soon as I surrendered to just being myself, without worrying about what others thought of my INJF behaviour, the happier I became! We are extremely rare people, and though many of us may have struggled most of our lives until we finally discovered who we truly are and the motives behind our behaviour, we can now start working on using our natural gifts and talents to live a more fulfilling life. I try to schedule an energic day back to back with a paperwork day, but it’s not easy. Really. I just found out that I was INFJ, and it was like taking that first gulp of fresh air after being under water for too long. Imagine how super I could be if I just could get out of my sadness. It’s such a thrill to do it, and feels like finding an oasis in a desert. Do you find that being a private investigator fulfills you and truly helps and protects people? You are easy to talk to and sociable.” I am but only because I have to be and because I “get” people quicker and better than most others. Not to mention the added bonus of un-necessary judgement & hatred being lashed out at me for being an attractive woman. Insightful comments here. I still help others as much as I can. For this trip I had to raise a few grand, which involved doing various half marathons, charity nights and power point presentations to local organisations. We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. I listen to the tone of words, I listen to every word that comes out of the persons mouth, I read body languages – is it aggressive? So I had taken the test a couple different times without the seriousness that it deserved and each time I would get something that I felt didn’t quite fit in so I didn’t pay much attention to it. I pay attention to the slightest details. Lol. I saw your comment about finding a career where you’re able to work alone and it hit a nerve with me. And yet she often tells me that she feels inferior to me intellectually. Myself, I have always found solace in my “heavy metal” music and circle of friends. Makes me feel like I have to win a damn llottery ticket! (No, I would never praise myself like this in real life.) I’ve always felt different from others even as a small child. I am a marketing copywriter by profession, but in every job I’ve ever had, I always been the “counselor” where people naturally gravitate to me to share their problems. Thanks so much! I have actually considered doing a side business of party planning for people during college while I am also have a full-time job. There are some warped opinions on what is good out there and not every INFJ is going to agree on what they believe in except for the basics of what being an INFJ personlity is. Hence why I say it’s a curse being a INFJ. I have a core group of very close friends and everyone else I consider acquaintances. for 18+ years, my career has been finding others’ mistakes. I am a mental health practitioner, and also an INFJ. Give them time. Most impressive people I have ever known of were crazy to society. A fact that calms you down. In those moments, brief as they are, I don’t feel so alone. i never wanted to feel that way again, so i foolishly protected my heart from love and married for practical reasons. Now I understand why I felt that way and I’m ok! Or any others? I found my personality more challenging for me in my adolescent years, when I felt so alienated and different from others. I am an ENFP and have gotten a fabulous INFJ in my life as a coach. But when I think about these things and type them out, I know none of those assumptions are true. Kaido of the Hundred Beasts is widely known to be the strongest pirate alive in the One Piece world. I am an artist and songwriter and writing music has really helped me to “wash away ” the emotions of others and get in touch with my own. I also wanted Aliens to kidnap me. I think this is all due to the emphatic nature of our type–we are intuitively on some level constantly, “walking in someone else’s shoes”. I’ve been trying to correct this as of late, since I feel I’m a little overbearing. I spent years struggling with depression. We have to stay positive to help everyone move ahead. However, one day out of boredom I decided to take the Meyers-Briggs personality test. I’m 16 now and I am learning more about myself and it makes my life more calm. This has lead to me getting called rude by my own father. My brain is now racing with things to tell you, but we’d be here forever if I kept going. Grow my own vegetables and have lots of different animals. It doesn’t change the fact that it takes me about 2 days to “re-charge” after socialising, and I love being alone for several hours a day, if possible. But I just wanted to say that it’s great to know that I’m not alone with this inner power-struggle of wanting to be me, which is as convoluted as a Rubisk Cube, and wanting to make people happy. Life is all an adventure because I discover myself along with everything else. You have no idea how much I needed to find this today since tomorrow I have to face a group I have been having trouble with… and I think this is the reason. I am stronger and more resilient for it. However, i think i was also the one who distant “friends” from myself. I have been in the military nearly 17 years so surrounded by different people, situations and decisions nearly half my life but I often find myself at opposite ends of the decision table to my peers who have progressed through the same training with me. some days i’ll see a girl i’d want to talk to but won’t because for some reason i just can’t bring myself to it, not quite knowing what to say, especially since small talk isn’t one of my strengths. does birth order (middle child is the fixer and peacemaker) and family personality help form our personality and could being ill give one the pause to be deeply reflective and intuitive ? It was difficult to breath reading all this. Either that or I’m crazy.” That’s 30 years ago. I love being alone in an art museum or in nature. But I feel like I need some help getting there. I always get in between fights, i stopped people from beating their kids on the streets, I shared my home with strangers in need, I’ve given the clothes of my back… I helped as I could, also because i know what it’s like to suffer. I can be “on” and come out of my shell. I have suffered a lot in relationship’s but now I am feeling like I have something for once to carry me through to the bright side of my life. I make stop motion films as a hobby. We share so many things in common except that he’s absolutely logical and non emotional lol. Never had anyone who could fully understand me and many times considered a therapist.